Why Do Marriages End

Why Do Marriages EndWith the recent news of yet another celebrity couple calling it quits, I started asking myself why do marriages end? Now I know this is a topic that has as many answers as people that are married. I just wondered is there some fairly common patterns that emerge that makes marriage have a 50% divorce rate. And I think I found a few common reasons.

Why Do Marriages End

In this video I found, there are a few clues to what I have discovered. See if you can find them.

Here is what I came up with:

  1. Lack of getting to know each other pre-marriage. A lot of obstacles can be brought to light by getting to know your mate well beforehand. Is their an anger problem, substance problem, family problems? Are they hard workers, selfless, goal-oriented? Where do they stand on kids, vacations, holidays, MONEY? These discoveries are born out over time. You can not determine this by a late night chat over drinks.
  2. Life. Sadly, life can blindside the best of marriages. Loss of job, disability/death of a child can cause great stumbling blocks that usually, with out professional help, can end a marriage.
  3. Expectations. Yep, you heard me right. You can have hopes and dreams in your marriage absolutely. But when these get in the way of life now or reality. Your spouse is who they are. They are changing and growing and so are you. Neither one of you can make the other change. If you live in the expectation of them being something they are not, you live in disappointment. This can be debilitating to the other person (no one wants to feel like they are a letdown) and takes a big hit on your marriage.

What did you come up with? Please share in the comment area below.

I am a believer that marriage is for better or worse (abusive relationships not withstanding). So in supporting this, I do believe that all things can be worked through. Oh, it takes two and hard work certainly. But in the end I know this to be true. If you do too, like this blog. Though no expert, my belief has come from being married for 24 years. Through thick and thin, we chose to stick it out. And I can honestly and happily admit, that our marriage grows better and stronger each day!

The answer to my question why do marriages end may never be fully known. For today, addressing the discoveries above might be a start to turning the divorce trend around.

About the author: By

Julie and Matt have been married for 23+ years and have the belly laughs and wrinkles to prove it! They are also awesome parents to five adopted kiddos and the owner of the How To Fix My Marriage website.

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