The blame game! We know what it is and we know how to do it. There is no denying it. This little maneuver can be destructive at best and show stopping at worst. Why? Why do we blame our spouse? Well there are a couple of reasons. First, it is easier to see another’s faults [...]
The fact that you’re looking at this website probably means that you’re desperate for answers and help on how to fix your marriage. If you’re at that point, please do yourself a favor – click here now for the help you need to fix your marriage! 20 years ago I was in crisis – my wife of six months had been [...]
One of the books we read several years ago was The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. The information we gained from The Five Love Languages has been very useful to us over the years because of the fact that it’s unlocked the secret of not only how Julie and I like to be loved, [...]
Honey, honey, HONEY? Oh, what? You never listen to me! Is this a common occurrence in your marital conversations? I bet if I were to do an informal poll, this would most likely be right at the top of the list complaints! Well, here is a video that might just give you a bit of encouragement [...]
In The Us Factor, Dr. Melnick talks about a sure way to cause your partner not to trust you. It’s called “The Yes…But”, and basically it goes like this: You start out saying something positive, then follow it up with something negative. Here are a couple of examples: “Honey, I really liked the way you [...]
One of the relationship habits that Dr. Joseph Melnick talks about The Us Factor is “characterizations”. Characterizing someone means “typecasting” them in a certain kind of role, and not allowing them to change. The example Dr. Melnick uses is how child actors are typecast as child actors, and it’s really hard for them to break [...]
We just watched the first actual training DVD for The Us Factor and we found it both interesting and helpful. First, here’s a little bit about what we learned about the program itself, then we’ll share our take on the actual content. It appears that in the DVD’s, Dr. Melnick alternates between showing several different [...]
As we work through the Us Factor Program, I thought it would be useful to write a little review of the Workbook, so you know what that particular piece of the program is like. The workbook is 232 pages, and it contains recaps or summaries of every one of the DVD sessions. It shows pictures [...]
One of the books we read several years ago was The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. The information we gained from The Five Love Languages has been very useful to us over the years because of the fact that it’s unlocked the secret of not only how Julie and I like to be loved, [...]
How to fix my marriage. This is a topic that Matt and Julie discussed together many times over the course of the last 20 years. Now, here’s their story about how they’ve done just that (or at … Read More