Blame The Spouse!

Blame your spouse

The blame game! We know what it is and we know how to do it. There is no denying it. This little maneuver can be destructive at best and show stopping at worst. Why? Why do we blame our spouse? Well there are a couple of reasons. First, it is easier to see another’s faults […]

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Don’t Mix Ice Cream With Spinach

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In The Us Factor, Dr. Melnick talks about a sure way to cause your partner not to trust you. It’s called “The Yes…But”, and basically it goes like this: You start out saying something positive, then follow it up with something negative. Here are a couple of examples: “Honey, I really liked the way you […]

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Have You Typecast Your Spouse?

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One of the relationship habits that Dr. Joseph Melnick talks about The Us Factor is “characterizations”. Characterizing someone means “typecasting” them in a certain kind of role, and not allowing them to change. The example Dr. Melnick uses is how child actors are typecast as child actors, and it’s really hard for them to break […]

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Pursuer Distancer Relationships and Other Relationship Habits

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We just watched the first actual training DVD for The Us Factor and we found it both interesting and helpful. First, here’s a little bit about what we learned about the program itself, then we’ll share our take on the actual content. It appears that in the DVD’s, Dr. Melnick alternates between showing several different […]

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Stay Off My Side Of The Street!

One of the things that Dr. Melnick talks about in the Us Factor is staying on your own side of the line, or as our counselor says, staying on your own side of the street. Here’s an example of what this means, taken from our life just this morning! One thing Matt and I have […]

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